hopefully u have gotten it.. I have not read all 4 pages.. but I just use my hand.. otherwise another great tool to use is either
Oil filter cup (with a ratchet)
oil filter pliers (works EVERY TIME)
Of of course if u have one of these
Then u should have no problem... I normally just use #3.. God blessed me with great gripping hands and well u can see my biceps but they are frickin HUGE!! lol
next time make sure to lube the gasket VERY GOOD and only use your hand to make it tight