Im sorry for your loss, I really am, but do you think you are the only person who has a lost a loved one to anything? I lost a family member to drunk driving, do you think I should go an post on every car forum telling people how to live their lives and to not drive drunk?
Seeing threads like this makes me sad, but its also like a beating a dead horse. Anyone whos an adult knows (most of the time) the decisions that they should make, and right from wrong, regardless of how much youve poured your heart onto an internet forum.
What threads like these do is leave a spot for argument amongst fellow car enthusiasts in regards to how they drive, and frankly, imo, its not something that is really needed and should just be locked.
Your time should be spent mourning the loss of your friend, enjoying the company of friends while you think back on fond memories, not fighting with people on a computer.
Again, I am sorry for your loss.